Tuesday 3 November 2015

PATIENCE & TOLERANCE THE KEY TO HAPPINESS

Chakravarti Rajagopalachari or popularly known as Rajaji wrote a beautiful and meaningful song "Kurai Ondrum Illai Marai Murthy Kanna".

(Kurai Onrum Illai, Tamil: குறை ஒன்றும் இல்லை, meaning, No grievances have I, is a Tamil devotional song written by C. Rajagopalachari. The song set in Carnatic music was written in gratitude to Hindu God (Venkateswara and Krishna visualized as one) and compassionate mother - wikipedia.org)

When Vivekananda approached Kali for an explanation, not able to stomach many atrocities done in the name of religion during his time against humanity and the places of worship, Kali told him it was also her doing.

Tavayogi Thangarasan Adigal always reminds me "Alatthikaathey", asking me not to take things too seriously and get tensed up over situations. 

Mataji Sarojini Ammaiyaar trumpets the same message Agathiyar told me in my Nadi, to maintain "Sagippu thanmai" or be more tolerant. Agathiyar has many a time reminded us to be patient in wanting to see the results of our endeavors.

Agathiyar on numerous occasions, while mentioning about many wrong and false understanding currently prevalent among the public, also says, "Let it be".

When tea was served to a visitor and Yogi Ramsuratkumar, the visitor moved his glass of tea. The Yogi returned the glass to its original place! When Balakumaran was saddened to see a young mother carry her child and stand in line in the hot sun to have the Yogi's blessings, Balakumaran whispered to the Yogi to allow her to be seen first. The Yogi did not respond. After several attempts by Balakumaran, the Yogi finally questioned him if he (Balakumaran) was disturbed by the scene. When Balakumaran nodded and said yes, the Yogi finally gave in to his wishes. But Balakumaran writes in his book that he regretted for having put in a nice word for the women and her husband.

Agathiyar encourages us to learn to forgive others like how he forgave me, as told in my Nadi reading. The most compassionate father tells me that although I had done wrong deeds, I needed the experience.

Agathiyar listened to my mother's prayer hoping that I should drop my anger. Agathiyar then expounded the dangers of anger in one single Nadi reading specifically to help me address and manage my anger. He put me to test almost immediately after that particular reading too. It was a Sunday when I had this reading. The streets were empty except for a few cars parked in their bays. I parked my car in a parking lot alongside the road. As my family and I returned to the car after the reading, I was confronted with a situation where someone had parked his car alongside mine! It did not make sense to me. Why would someone park his car alongside mine when there were numerous empty parking lots. This angered me. I honked my horn but no one came to move the car. It made me even more angrier. I tried to open the doors but they were locked. I took a look into the car and realized the hand brake was up. Although this made me very angry, my family members were having a field day at my expense. My 2 daughters and wife looked towards the sky as if looking to see if there were CCTV's fitted and if the Siddhas were watching. They were laughing away. I started to shove and pushed the car. It began to move. I push it a sufficient distance to enable me to come out of my parking lot and we drove away to have our lunch.

After having lunch we took a stroll on the walkway when a local TV anchor and Radio newsreader passed by us. I turned around and he turned around too. He came up to me and pushed me to the wall of the shop-houses. He pointed to both my wife and my daughters and began to compare the size of the pottu or bindi on their foreheads. He ridiculed my children for have such tiny pottu and said they should follow the mother. He emphasized that we should follow the culture. I was taken aback by his action and words. I was irritated and lost my cool. I replied that it was their wish and that if indeed he was concerned about upholding the Indian culture he should be in vesti and not in pants. He hurriedly left the scene for fear of being barraged with more angry words.

Imagine this incident happened just moments after the annoying incident at the car park.

If only we could adhere to these wise and sound advise we shall have peace of mind and the world would be a better place.