When many parents seem to make their children clones of themselves, Agathiyar says we are only here to bring them into this world. Sadly though, parents tend to push their unfulfilled aspirations, ambitions, and desires on their children expecting them to follow suit, short of defining the destiny of these children. We need to drop this. Tavayogi says the souls must be left free to discover, experience, and learn. Supramania Swami, Tavayogi, and Agathiyar coming as gurus never expected nor forced us into becoming clones. Rather, they gave us full freedom to explore, experience, learn, and decide what was best for us. It was important for each individual to know his purpose here and live it out accordingly. Hence from their perspective, nothing was right or wrong. It is all as planned. Hence while the book that I came across in my college library that taught me to say "No" broke the spell on me initially, and while in coming to Tavayogi he broke everything I had aspired and desired and held on to, Agathiyar on his part broke everything he had me built following his instructions, eventually freeing me.
Most of us live out a major part of our Karma before even coming to wanting to know the reason or purpose in coming. When we begin asking why it was all happening and begin to seek answers, only then our spiritual journey begins. We shall question religion then for failing us. Knowing the reason we start on the quest to know if we can evade or come out of it. In seeking solutions, we are sent or moved to go on pilgrimages, not as a tourist or formal devotees, knocking on the doors of the temples but as a true seeker. Our seeking brings us to listen and look out for signs and answers. We might turn up at the door of a guru as I did or a guru might step before us again as did happen to me. The gurus' teachings bring us to a paradigm shift, to know the soul. The ego that was all these while in charge, takes a beating and lets go of its hold. The soul that went into hiding earlier comes to the forefront. It is time to reckon the soul and the purpose we came for. The soul with the help of the guru charts our destiny. Just as a trainer eyes the potential in an individual and grooms him into an athlete, the Siddha comes by eyeing the soul that is purposed to walk the path and trains and molds him or her into becoming one. Just as in the field of sports discipline is of utmost importance, here too one has to be disciplined to follow the teachings and practices given. Whether we succeed or otherwise is solely in our hands and our efforts. But in the Siddha path, we can look forward to the Siddhas to assist in lifting us, provided we have strived to work for it. Our fate is then won thanks to them.